Loving a woman with ADHD can take a toll on you if you don’t know what to do.
In the US alone, it is estimated that over 4.4% of US adults are living with ADHD and 4.9% of them will be women.
So if you find yourself dating one of the women, then you need to know what to do.
What is ADHD
ADHD/ADD (Attention Deficiency Hyperactivity Disorder) is a medical condition that is characterized by attention difficulty, self-control, hyperactivity, and impulsiveness.
3 Core Characteristics of People Living With ADHD
Basically, people diagnosed with ADHD:
- Find it hard concentrating on one thing for too long;
- They are very restless
- They are hyperactive.
So you can imagine how stressful it can be if you love a woman with ADHD and you have no idea what to do.
Fortunately, all hopes are not all lost; you just have to remember certain things if you love a woman with ADHD
Loving a Woman with ADHD? 20 Things You Should Not forget
#1: She has difficulty paying attention
People with ADHD have an issue staying attentive for too long; one of the major symptoms of ADHD is attention difficulty. Instead of concentrating on the task at hand, your woman would zone off thinking about other things or just staring at the wall.
#2: She has an active mind
You have to remember she has an active mind. For people without ADHD, there are times when your mind is inactive and calm but she doesn’t have that. Her brain and mind are constantly active and on the go.
#3: She cannot manage her emotions
Her feelings and emotions are always running wild and she finds it difficult to contain. As a result, she finds it difficult to put her raging thoughts together to manage her emotions.
#4: She gets anxious easily
They are so many things going on in their mind and so, a little trigger can make her very nervous. It could be anything really; from a noisy environment to depressing news to a horror movie.
#5: She finds it difficult stopping when she is in the mood
Although she will have difficulty concentrating on one task for long, there are times when she is in the mood that she will find it difficult stopping and it might also amaze you how focused she is when she is in the zone.
#6: She overreacts
ADHD affects emotions and you will find her overreacting over certain issues that you consider small and inconsequential. You need to expect sudden outbursts of temper or anger.
#7: She is impatient
People with ADHD are very restless because of how hyperactive they are, so she won’t be comfortable sitting still and waiting. She will always want things done immediately so she can get going; she needs constant motion.
#8: She is not a social person
Most people find it difficult relating to those with ADHD, so naturally, that reduces the number of friends they normally have. But apart from that, their condition makes them keep to themselves because they are anxious about being different in social circles. You will find her with very few or no friends and she will experience social anxiety.
#9: She thinks out of the box
This is a good thing that happens as a result of the fact that their brain functions differently from that of others, so they think differently. This will make her see out-of-the-box solutions to problems that are not evident to others.
#10: She is not organized
Disorganization is very popular with people with ADHD. You will find piles and piles of clothes in her room, a well-disorganized desk, and even a disorganized desktop. She functions better in a disorganized space than an organized one because that is how her brain functions, so there is no need trying to do something “sweet” by helping her organize.
#11: She avoids tasks
They have issues concentrating and have difficulty completing tasks, so it can be easy for them not to even bother with the task, in the first place. Don’t be surprised if she is avoiding committing to tasks or even making decisions.
#12: She is very passionate
They are very intense and deep and their minds are always active, so they do everything intensely. There is no half-way with people with ADHD. You will find her very passionate about everything and giving her heart to whatever she does.
#13: She is intuitive
The way their brain functions makes it possible for them to see beyond the surface; they are deep people and can see to the heart of things.
#14: She doesn’t easily absorb information
Remember that people with ADHD are experts at zoning out, so she will zone out many times when you have conversations. She will still hear you and keep listening but her mind will zone out and she will probably start looking at your lips moving or take a journey in her mind.
#15: She is impulsive
They are very impulsive, so she will probably find something that catches her attention suddenly and what to do it. The problem is not in finding what to do but following through with it. In the space of time, she will find many things that will catch her attention.
#16: She always feels like she is underachieving
People with ADHD are always feeling like underachievers; they always feel like they could be doing more. The reason for this probably because they feel their condition is limiting them from reaching their full potential. She will feel that way and need reassurance.
#17: She is not comfortable being closed-in
They are restless, so they are usually pacing, especially when they are trying to gather their thoughts. She will need enough space for pace and will be anxious in an enclosed space.
#19: She does too many things at the same time
They are impulsive; things catch their attention easily, so they are constantly adding more things to their plate and trying to do it all at once.
#20: She is active in a crisis
They are hyperactive and do very well when the adrenaline is high. Surprisingly, she will be active in a crisis.
#21: It most likely runs in her family
It is possible one of her parents, siblings or her relatives will also have ADHD. So, you will have to be sensitive and understand as well, if you are around her family.
One thing you need to understand is that while it can be difficult living with ADHD, it is not that uncommon and many people with ADHD are living great lives and have gone on to do great things in life. So, just show her love and understanding; that is the best way to live in love with your woman.